Coaching

What is coaching?

Coaching is a conversation that forwards you in your life.

It is a willing and mutual partnership between you and a coach, in which you bring your inspirations, goals, and motivations to the table, while the coach provides a neutral mirror, space and sounding board for you to discover your own truths.

A coach does not solve problems for you, but rather empowers you to seek your own answers and come up with new and creative solutions.

Coaching is distinct from mentoring in that a coach does not advise you on what to do, nor use his own experiences as a basis for suggesting solutions.

Is coaching right for me?

Coaching is suitable for you if you are:

• Looking to forward yourself in life
• Willing to look within yourself to seek the truth
• Willing to be a co-creator and partner in working on yourself
• Willing to take responsibility for improving your life

Issues suitable for coaching include but are not limited to:

• Finding direction
• Finding meaning and purpose
• Increasing happiness and satisfaction
• Building deep and meaningful relationships
• Deepening connection with self and others
• Improving communication and self-expression
• Finding career direction
• Increasing fulfilment at work
• Transitioning between life stages
• Deepening fulfilment, enjoyment, and appreciation in life

Issues that may be more suited for therapy, psychiatric treatment, or medical attention include:

• Lifelong issues and problems
• Addictions
• Phobias
• Mental disorders
• Post-traumatic stress disorder
• Panic attacks
• Generalised anxiety disorder
• Clinical depression
• Physical ailments

If you are not sure whether coaching is right for you, feel free to reach out for a chat.

What is your coaching style?

My clients describe me as allowing, soft, gentle, emotional, nurturing, and compassionate. I am good at providing people with a safe space to explore, understand, and express their feelings – often leading to emotional release and catharsis.

I am also firm when necessary as we must adhere to workable principles for coaching to be effective. I am direct when providing feedback that could help forward you, and cause you to reflect and grow.

After coaching, clients often report being able to seek a new direction, connect deeply with themselves, and love themselves deeper. They also discover a new side of themselves, feel lighter and happier, feel heard and understood, and feel more excited about their possibilities.

If you are looking for a drill sergeant or discipline mistress, I may not be the best person for you.

What are your qualifications/background?

I have a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credential with the International Coach Federation. I have coached and trained over 600 people and have over 1,000 hours of coaching and training experience.

In 2017 I wrote a children’s book on finding and accepting yourself, as well as embracing your unique gifts. Olly the Submarine retailed at Kinokuniya, My Greatest Child, Books Actually, and other book stores across Singapore. The book officially launched at the Asian Festival of Children’s Content in 2022. Olly the Submarine is now available for borrowing at the National Library.

In 2016 I organised a 30-day international coaching campaign to touch, empower, and inspire 500 lives. The campaign set local and international records for most number of people coached in consecutive days.

Prior to becoming a coach I worked in investment banking at Credit Suisse for two years. I then worked at the Ministry of Manpower doing manpower policy for three and a half years.

I graduated from the University of Michigan with a dual degree in Business Administration and Financial Mathematics. Before that I was from Raffles Junior College.

Testimonials

Before the coaching, I was struggling with a career decision and was unable to make sense of my own thoughts and needs.

During the coaching session, Shuying provided me a safe space to be vulnerable and open up my heart. With great patience, empathy and listening skills she helped me to open up and guided me through acknowledging my fears and desires.

As a result, I was able to make one of the most important decisions of my life, which I had been struggling with for a month. I feel confident and at peace.

Cecile, Product Manager

I would strongly recommend Shuying to anyone who needs a breakthrough in their life.

During our first meeting, Shuying and I started our “get to know each other conversation” in the usual manner but she was very quick to pick up my pent up emotions in what I was sharing. That’s when the coaching session took on a life of its own.

It was a truly liberating experience and a life-changing experience for me! I found the courage to confront my fear. I will not forget the precious lesson I learnt from this session.

Bernard, Business Owner

I was at a crossroads at work, deciding between maintaining the status quo where I may be stuck doing something I don’t enjoy, or taking a plunge to have a serious discussion with my boss about adjusting my job scope to be more aligned with my interests.

The coaching session was fruitful and nudged me towards taking action. I discussed my concerns with my boss and was able to co-develop a suitable job scope that provided a win-win situation for both myself and my boss.

I would recommend Shuying as she has an endearing personality which helps people open up. She asks important questions that help people reflect critically.

Mike, Graduate Student

Shuying is an excellent coach. She is very different from the other coaches that I’ve met. Apart from imparting me with the tips and tricks to answer interview questions, she also helped me to get out of the endless loop of self-doubt which was the major obstacle stopping me from landing my dream job.

After receiving coaching from her, I was able to present myself more confidently at interviews and that helped me to land my dream job as a data analyst.

Shuying played a really important part in making my dream come true and I am really grateful to her for that.

Yiting, Data Analyst

Before working with Shuying, I had problems communicating and expressing my own emotions. I had strained relationships with my loved ones and friends.

Through the coaching I acknowledged my emotions. I finally heard my own voice which was longing for assertiveness and clarity. I know how to love and take care of myself.

Shuying is a dedicated and understanding coach. I recommend her if you want to have greater understanding and depth in connecting to yourself and others.

Cheng Han, Engineer

Before working with Shuying, I felt bad, angry, and frustrated. There were a lot of emotions mixed up inside me and I didn’t know what to do. I knew I had issues but I didn’t know what caused them.

During the session, I finally felt I had some space to talk and bring up my issues with someone who understood me. I had the emotional release I felt I needed. I saw something new about my relationship to my father.

Xiao Ding, Headhunter

The session was excellent. Shuying was very personable and friendly. She gave me a safe environment to share and helped me gain realisations about myself I wouldn’t have been able to reach on my own.

Wen Juan, Teacher

Next steps

If you wish to explore coaching further, drop me a note through the contact form below.

Once I receive your message, I’ll respond and we can arrange an exploratory session. This is a chemistry test in which:

• We get to know each other better
• You decide if coaching is suitable for you
• You assess if I’m the right coach for you

I am currently looking for clients who are:

• Looking for ways to connect with their inner child
• Looking for ways to express themselves creatively
• Looking for a new beginning in life
• Looking to play, have fun, and enjoy life
• Looking to discover new aspects of themselves

During the session I’ll ask you about your goals and dreams to see how I can support you. This is free of charge with no obligations.

If we both agree that a coaching relationship is beneficial, we would then work out the format and duration of the engagement.